10 Signs You Are Dating a Service Designer

February 11, 2022

By Kate Ellis, Service Designer

The signs are there—sticky notes on the mirror, your first date is plotted on a journey map, and you think they’re using research techniques on you—could it be that you are dating a service designer?


It’s humorous to you when they must explain to someone what they do for a living.

The resulting confusion is all too familiar to you. Because services are often intangible experiences that only have value when performed for the customer, many people are left bewildered about service designers’ work. In short, service designers bring customer-centric mindsets into organizations to bring new ideas to customers that keep them coming back.

Their love language is helping you with negotiating your service.

They’ll show their love for you by letting you in on a little secret: empathy will take you a long way when interacting with customer service. Service designers work to understand the motivations of frontline workers within an organization to create better experiences for employees and customers alike.
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They understand how the pieces and the whole of your relationship fit together.  

If they want to build a future with you, they’ll ensure you’re on the same page. Service designers tactfully zoom out to create alignment on a future vision that adds value for the customer and makes business sense for the provider and zoom in to identify near-term initiatives to drive the transition needed to realize that future.
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They are comfortable with the awkward stage of dating.

To be exclusive or keep it casual? Service design excels when the problem is unknown or the path forward is unclear. Service designers are not afraid to enter unfamiliar terrain searching for new opportunities.
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You’ll hear, “Yes, and…” when you share your ideas with them.

Affirming your ideas and creatively adding to them, service designers have adopted the “Yes, and…” mindset from improvisation. It enables them to build stories with their team members by finding valuable ideas and focusing on those aspects.  

They’ll remind you that you’re a team.

The secret sauce to your relationship will be making decisions together. Service design is collaborative by nature. Service designers work side-by-side with organizations to open up opportunities to give everyone, not just trained designers, the tools necessary to become more service-driven.
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You might get overwhelmed by all the alternatives they present you when planning a date.

Don’t be surprised if they list dating ideas categorized by weather, cost, and proximity. Service designers often work in ambiguous terrain, which means they’ll explore multiple possibilities to create the best possible outcomes for customers.

They can map out your relationship.

They are even visualizing the dating journey itself! Service designers often use visualizations to create a concrete representation of the service and facilitate focused communication among those involved in its design.  

Dating journey map full

They always want to try new things. 

A new recipe, improv class, scuba diving, moving abroad – you’ve seen it all. Service designers embrace experimentation as a way to learn and generate value. It allows them to test new concepts or methods of doing things and ensure that they’re building the right thing. 

They will always try to understand your perspective.

Putting themselves in your shoes is what they do best. Service designers believe that designing impactful services requires differing viewpoints. Design research brings multiple perspectives of the service into focus: its customers, those involved in its delivery, and those responsible for the outcomes.
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They’re phenomenal at telling stories. 

And you’ve bonded with them over many. Service designers use storytelling to conceptualize the future where people have better experiences and persuade and inspire others to take the necessary action to make those experiences a reality.
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If you’ve gotten this far, you’re probably dating a service designer. If not, but you find these signs acceptable, a service designer is likely a desirable choice for you.

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